Thoughts in Action: Part Three
“Know yourself and you will win all battles.”
To know yourself is a task that many people consider to be the meaning of life. Whether or not this is true isn’t my place to say, but regardless of that, knowing yourself is the key to being successful in your endeavors.
The thing is though, it’s not as simple as just getting to know yourself. The reason for this is that people tend to search for things they like and only think about those things. This is a flaw, because it doesn’t allow for us to see our weaknesses. When we can’t see those, our downfall follows shortly after. Would the Spartans have lost if they didn’t have a traitor among them? Most likely not.
The same logic applies to your mind and body. Both are shockingly intricate, and because of this they have quite a few chances to improve. This is why it’s important to exercise and learn things. This is why we go to school. This is why it’s important to have a job that isn’t the same thing all day every day -- doing otherwise results in less brain plasticity and a lowered potential.
To know yourself is to love and accept yourself. ALL parts of yourself, not just the parts you like. Truthfully, you don’t have to love your flaws, but it’s still important to acknowledge them, accept them, and respect them. Chances are, a history buff and a math whiz will never trade professions. To expect that would be ridiculous, and to assume that ignoring your weakness is going to fix it would be a poor decision for you to make. When you’re training of course, this is a little different, because the whole point is to push your potential further and make yourself more resilient (see Ross Edgley’s The Art of Resilience for more information on this).
To summarize -- acceptance of the whole is crucial for success.
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Thoughts in Action: Part Two
“In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity.”
Chaos is a tricky thing, isn’t it?
We see it all around the world, especially now that a lot of us are strongly encouraged to stay inside. We see it within our own homes, where our minds are running at ten thousand miles a second and freaking out about everything.
Where life is, chaos grows.
Fortunately for us, we have a funny way of controlling our chaos. Some of us are able to let our chaos be the nutrients for our bodies and the stimuli for our minds. To some, chaos acts as a ladder.
How do they do this?
Well, it begins with acceptance of chaos. You can’t move past anything without first accepting it, regardless of whether it’s mental or physical. To use chaos, it’s absolutely necessary that you accept it’s existence and acknowledge that it’s going to keep happening.
The next step to using chaos as a ladder is to find the pattern to your chaos. That’s right, even chaos has order to it. If you keep your eyes peeled, you’ll eventually begin figuring out what triggers what. Once you figure these things out, you’ll begin to be able to form plans around these patterns.
The final (simplified) step in making chaos your tool is to determine what you’re working towards. Use the acceptance you’ve gained for chaos, combine it with your plan, and soon enough you’ll be able to just focus on what’s right in front of you.
While going through this process, it’s important to keep in mind that chaos and order are the yin and yang of life. Jordan Peterson even states that order can be found within chaos, which can be found within order, within chaos, and so on and so forth. Apply this to life, and we soon begin figuring out where things lie.
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What do you do to push towards order even when everything around you is chaotic? How do you come up with plans to solve your problems? There’s lots of different ways of thinking, and I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. Also feel free to leave a like and share this post on social media -- your friends and family can use the information here! Other than that, stay tuned for blog posts every Monday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday, and try to be the reason someone smiles today :)
Thoughts in Action: Part One
“Opportunities multiply as they are seized.” -- Sun Tzu, Art of War
Sun Tzu was a military strategist, philosopher, and general. He’s credited for writing The Art of War, which has influenced the world both in terms of philosophy and war strategy.
Opportunities are opened up to us every day. Sometimes we take them, sometimes we don’t, and sometimes we don’t even notice that they exist. But that’s okay, because even if we don’t take any opportunities up, they’ll still happen… right?
Well, according to Sun Tzu (called Master Sun in The Art of War), opportunities are exponential. Meaning that if we take up an opportunity, more opportunities rise to meet our current level of being. Think of beginning a job at a large company… let’s say Google.
At first, you’re simply an intern. You might not even make money yet. Then, once you do good enough, you’ll get promoted to an official employee. After crushing the expectations there, you become a manager, and then part of a team of managers, going up and up and up until you reach your potential. In fact if you were to become the CEO of Google, you could raise the bar to match your potential. This is how innovative things come into this world.
Unfortunately, this is a double edged sword. Sometimes, we shut down opportunities, and don’t act on them. This leads to a whole branch of opportunities to be cut off. This could even cause us to become unmotivated and turn down more opportunities, which has the same effect. Eventually we shut everything down until we can only do what we’re already doing. We lower our potential.
Opportunities revolve around potential. If we’re good enough, new opportunities pop up and take us to a whole new level. This happens again and again and again until we reach the top, which is when we add a new level. Even the best have room to grow, and once they do that they change the game.
A good example of this is to look at a sub-four minute mile. There was a time where nobody thought it was possible because our bodies physically were incapable of achieving this feat. That is, until 1954, when Roger Bannister ran a 3 minute, 59.4 second mile. Since then, more than 1,400 male athletes have done the same. Bannister became so good that he reached the top -- then added a new level for people to reach.
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The Prison of Thought
“While we wait for life, life passes.” -- Seneca
Seneca was a Roman philosopher during the first phase of Emperor Nero’s reign. He was also a tragedian, meaning he had to think about why tragedy happened and what caused us to react the way we do.
Many people have a problem -- they end up stuck in their own minds, thinking about everything that could happen, but they never actually start doing anything. These people literally spend all day every day thinking about different ways things could happen.
Seneca understood this problem, and he knew that while people spent time thinking about what COULD happen, things WERE happening. This quote really is as simple as it looks, and there isn’t really any underlying theme to it.
In order for us to break free from this bad habit of thinking instead of doing, we need to look at when we’re wasting time thinking. Is it at night when you’re laying in bed? Is it during your break at work? Or is it when you get home and you think about the things that you want to do? Chances are, there’s some kind of time throughout the day where you worry about things. This wastes the time you have.
The good thing about this, however, is that this habit of overthinking is just that: a habit. If you’ve looked at my previous blog posts you know that habits are breakable. I encourage you to review those for methods on breaking habits.
What do you think? What do you worry about when nothing else is happening? How do you stop yourself from overthinking? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. Also, feel free to like this post and share it on your social media -- your friends and family could use the information here! Stay tuned for future blog posts every Monday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday, and try to be the reason someone smiles today :)
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I know this post is quite a bit shorter than most of my other ones, but I wanted to keep it simple this time. This quote is possibly the worst one to overthink.
Defining Boundaries
“It is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” -- Epictetus
People go through a lot of things that tear them down. Or rather, people go through a lot of things that make them tear themselves down.
The truth is, everybody has a tragic backstory. Everybody can be the poor kid that did bad in school and didn’t have friends. Funnily enough though, it’s usually the kids who actually do deal with these problems that end up successful. The most successful people are the ones who have tasted failure and hated it, so they spit it out and have been starving for success ever since.
Why do we do this? Why do we knock ourselves down and make our situation worse than it really is?
Well, why do we skip workouts? Why do we eat junk food and spend all day staring at a screen?
The answer is the same: because it’s easier to fail.
It’s easier to break down and give up and choose to stop trying. Sometimes, it’s what we need. Sometimes it’s not worth continuing, and sometimes we really can’t go on any longer without permanently damaging our minds or bodies. That being said, those cases are few and far between.
So what does Epictetus mean when he says it’s only your reaction that matters? Well, my interpretation of this quote is that any situation can be made into something good. It’s not dismissing the fact that people struggle, because that’s clearly not true. People struggle all day every day. However, sometimes it can be useful to use those negative emotions to our advantage and rise above our circumstances.
Take the example of our fight or flight instinct. When frightened or stressed, some people shut down. They curl up in a ball and start crying while whatever is stressing them out continues to happen. This isn’t something to be ashamed of; it’s a perfectly normal human reaction. It’s not necessarily the “wrong” thing to do. Others, however, fight back. They punch whatever jump scares them or seperate themselves from whatever is stressful. Again, this is nothing to be ashamed of, because this is another normal human reaction.
The fight or flight instinct carries over to how we deal with our emotions. When some people are stressed out by work, school, or relationships, they tend to break down mentally. They become a doormat, and they let everything around them take advantage of them. This is usually because they saw a parental figure or a figure of authority do the same thing when they were younger. Other people may become angry and start raging and screaming at the things around them when they’re stressed out. Again, this is usually because they saw an authority figure do the same. Those two cases are the extremes. The key to dealing with stress is to find a balance between the two -- don’t be a doormat, but don’t be a bully either. Instead, be calm and assertive of your boundaries at all times.
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Avoiding Negativity
“The key is to keep company only with those who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” -- Epictetus
It’s a dark world we live in, isn’t it?
People around us bring our feelings down all the time. They judge others, speak negatively, assume the worst of people, and just generally have a negative outlook on life. They might say they’re happy people, but when it comes down to it they haven’t faced themselves.They haven’t grown.
How do we fall out of this group of people? Everybody around us seems so negative, and it’s not like we can test out what everybody is like and go from there. We don’t have the time.
The truth is, we don’t need any time to look for more positive people. Instead, we need time to look for the more positive versions of ourselves and begin looking at things more positively.
Once we begin to be more positive, the things around us do the same. Or rather, we attract things that are more like us. When we become sources of light, others reflect our light.
Once we become truly positive, other positive people will show up in our lives. As Epictetus says, this is the key. In order to become something, we need to surround ourselves with likeminded people. It’s difficult to be positive when everyone around you hates everything, just like it’s hard to be negative when everyone around you looks for the best in every situation (which, for the record, is the way to go).
Using this logic, we have three options. Option one is for us to be positive -- no matter what. Always looking for the best and trying to make our circumstances turn out okay. Option two is to surround ourselves with people who chose option one. Option three is to do both, and frankly it’s the most effective.
When we only keep the presence of those who uplift us and bring out our best, it becomes easier to maintain our best. Because of this, we need to actively choose to be around people who we want to be like. Your friends make up who you are, so choose them wisely.
Trouble may come when those negative people try to drag you back down. When this happens, try to remember that you can always refuse to participate in their arguments. It takes two personalities to argue. Knowing this, we can rob people’s negativity of its power by refusing to give it attention. As a result, we become less burdened by them. I’ll say it again: Your friends make up who you are, so choose them wisely.
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Forming an Unstoppable Will
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” -- Victor Frankl
Humans are freakish creatures, aren’t they?
Think about it. We’re smart enough to argue over completely made up concepts and ideas. No other animal discusses politics or religion because they literally can not comprehend those ideas. Humans, however, do that all the time. Every minute of every day, someone is thinking about religion or politics. That’s something to be proud of. We’re smart.
That being said, our intelligence often turns on us. Many people suffer from anxiety, depression, P.T.S.D., social anxiety, lack of discipline, stubbornness, poor time management, and everything in between. The human mind is vast and expansive, which leaves a lot of room for error.
However. There is one thing that we always have complete control over, whether we like it or not. That one thing is, as Frankl puts it, human freedom. In other words, we can always choose how we feel about something, and we can always choose to think differently about something. Nothing can take that from us.
One example that is, unfortunately, common can be found in people who had overly strict parents. Maybe they were yelled at every time they did something even slightly wrong. Maybe they were never trusted by their parents, but were told otherwise. Of course, these people then struggle to know what true safety and trust look like. That’s a topic of discussion for another time, but what matters in this case is that in some cases, the child will eventually rebel against the parent. The child will ignore the parents’ screaming and yelling, and begin to do things on their own. This is the last of human freedoms shining out of that child -- they’re taking control over their own thoughts and emotions. As sad as it is that this happens so often, it’s an inspiring thought. People of any age have the ability to break out of the mental chains that others have placed on them. This includes you, with any emotional chains. I wish you the best of luck.
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Powerful Mentality
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality” -- Seneca
Seneca was a Roman philosopher who lived from 4 BCE to 65 CE. He projected the idea that human lifetimes are the perfect amount of time if time was used properly.
This quote seems… grim at first, to say the least. Without a second thought, this quote is telling you to suck it up and solve your problems. Although stoicism is meant to help people work towards that ability, chances are that you would struggle with doing that. However, if you really let your mind wander with this quote, it becomes apparent that it’s reminding you just how powerful your mind can be.
As far as we know, we’re the wisest and most intelligent beings in the Universe. We’re so smart, in fact, that we get bored. Even with all of the information surrounding us and stimulating our minds, we still get bored. On top of that, we can develop skills that no other animal can. We can create things that control the elements around us. Our physical domain becomes whatever we want it to be.
However, the same applies to our mental domain. We can make that however we want it to be too. Our mental domain can have an untouchable fortress, or it can be a cardboard box you sit in when you get upset. The thing is, you can’t tell people this without seeming as if you don’t care about their problems. But you, noble reader, understand this concept. As someone who’s been working on themselves mentally, you know you have more control over your thoughts than most people think.
The truth is, most people understand that they control their surroundings, but they're never taught that they have complete control over their thoughts and emotions. Then when they finally stumble across that idea by themselves, they expect it to be easy. Of course, it isn’t, so they quit. In doing this, they let their emotions control them. After that, they wonder why their lives fall apart, and start blaming everything that’s going on around them. Then they try to shut out exterior problems. Before they know it, they’re back at square one.
The reason this quote can resonate with so many people is because truthfully, a lot of people want to be the victim. Not because they aren’t; their problems are valid and they really do matter. In a way, everybody is a victim. Unfortunately, when everybody is a victim, nobody is. This causes some people to magnify small problems they have in order to stand out and feel validated for having that problem. This isn’t to say that nobody has problems. As we know, the world can be a dark and scary place where terrible, horrible things happen. I’m not dismissing that fact. What I am dismissing, or rather what this quote is dismissing, is the idea that problems of any kind need to be a certain size before they’re validated by others; including yourself. Your problems are valid, and they do matter. Anybody who refuses to hear you out isn’t somebody you want to be around.
All of that being said, sometimes our problems aren’t exactly what we think they are, and it’s important to take responsibility for our actions in order to solve those problems.
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What do you think? What problems do you think need to be acknowledged by others? Do you have problems that you’re making worse inside your head? I’d love to hear what you think in the comments section. Also, share this article on your social media! You never know who could use this information to help them. Stay tuned for future blog posts every Monday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday, and check out a post on my page called “Feed Your Fire” for information on how to win a FREE MONTH OF COACHING from me, VALUED AT 1,000$! Other than that, take some time to care for yourself, and try to be the reason someone smiles today :)
Accept to Adapt
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to face ourselves.” --Victor Frankl
Victor Frankl was a psychiatrist and neurologist from Austria. He survived the Holocaust, moving through Theresienstadt, Auschwitz, Kaufering and Türkheim. He went on to form a new branch of psychotherapy known as logotherapy, which focuses on finding meaning in one’s life.
Frankl lived through some pretty big problems to say the least. The thing is, some of those problems persist today, and they all stem from one main issue. We see it in the words and actions of those who judge others, even when the person they’re judging doesn’t react anymore. We see it in people who are addicted to drugs and insist that they can quit whenever they want. We see it in people who are stuck in a toxic relationship. It’s everywhere.
The thing that all these people have in common is that they refuse to face themselves and challenge their own thoughts and beliefs. This could be because of fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, or just plain stubbornness and refusal to change. These people can’t fathom the idea of being wrong, so they simply never admit when they are.
The truth is, sometimes we need to be unmovable forces. Sometimes we need to not listen to other people, and just pursue what we think is right. However, when it gets to the point where every single thing you say is an argument, chances are you’re not accepting that you’re wrong. You might even be arguing just for the sake of it.
When this happens, we don’t adapt. When we refuse to challenge ourselves and develop new thoughts and opinions, we stagnate. Think of it this way -- our minds (and bodies for that matter) are similar to water. If you leave water sitting in a puddle outside, it fills up with dirt and leaves and sometimes even bug larvae. Dump that water into a flowing river, however, and it becomes crisp and clean. The idea is to have a mindset where your thoughts and opinions are strong, but you leave your ears open in the event that you come across new information. After all, you can’t learn what you think you already know.
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Feed Your Fire
“A blazing fire makes flame and brightness out of everything that is thrown into it.”
-- Marcus Aurelius
Fire is a tricky element. If used correctly, it can give life to the things around it. We use it to cook nutritious food for our bodies. We use fire to generate light, for countless different reasons, as well as heat, which we can use to forge tools.
However, as useful as fire is, it can easily be misused. Fire is life, but it can just as easily be death and destruction.
This brings us back to our quote. Fire makes flame and brightness out of everything that is thrown into it. The same applies to our minds. If we throw negative thoughts into our heads all the time, then we’re going to make a flame of negativity that spreads elsewhere. However, if we throw positive things into our heads all the time, the opposite effect happens. Put simply; the mind multiplies whatever you think about all day every day.
That being said, the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It can be a very dark, nasty place that beats you to a pulp and keeps kicking you until every bone in your body is shattered. To pretend that the world isn’t capable of doing that would be foolish -- stupid even. However, we can combat this fact by feeding ourselves positivity. The world might be cruel, but if we only ever focus on the cruel parts, that’s all we’ll ever see. In fact, the idea behind most religions is to help us open up our minds to the possibilities that await. The key to keeping yourself from falling and breaking down is to keep your eyes peeled for positivity. We see this in war when soldiers hold on to hope and keep pushing for victory. Some of the best stories are only possible because someone held on to hope.
It’s important for us to understand that we all contribute to other people’s fires with every move we make. The words we say are important, and they make an impact on other people’s thoughts, opinions, and feelings. That being said, our thoughts, opinions, and feelings can be impacted as well. Other people can use their words to hurl doubt, fear, stress, hate, confusion, anxiety, and more at you. Because of this, it’s important to stand guard over your fire. Those negative things that people try to make you feel need to be stopped at the door. In fact, it’s best to not entertain those thoughts at all. In a previous post I used the analogy of a five year old hitting you and screaming at you. Giving that five year old any attention for his actions only fuels him more. The same applies to negative emotions; give them any attention, and they’ll only multiply.
Of course, it’s difficult to maintain this mentality all the time. You can’t always be happy, because then you’ll block out all the other emotions that humans have the capability of feeling. The best thing you can do is accept your stance, and accept that you don’t feel good. Acceptance is the only way to move through your current position.
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Solutions Within Problems: Part Six
“The Fates guide the person who accepts them and hinder the person who resists them.” -- Cleanthes of Assos
This quote summarizes… well, Stoicism as a whole.
Take the word stoic and think about its definition, ignoring the philosophy behind it. According to google, stoic is defined as follows:
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a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.
The word Stoic describes someone who accepts the current situation and moves forward with it. The philosophy of Stoicism encourages it’s practitioners to embody this character until death. It encourages people to take control over their emotions instead of the other way around. Many people misunderstand and think that Stoicism encourages people to stifle their emotions and not feel at all. I can not stress enough that this is not the case in any way; stoicism is about seizing control over your emotions, not stifling them. The reason for this is that emotions eventually build up enough steam to explode out of whatever container you put them in. Emotions are powerful, but dangerous. Any boy scout has heard the phrase “it’s a tool, not a toy” when they learn how to use a knife. The same applies to emotions.
How does this relate to our quote?
Well, because “fate” is influenced by emotions. The things that happen to us influence our emotions, and our emotions influence the things that happen to us. Obviously we can’t change the things that happen to us, but we have full control over our emotions. Which means we can change the things that are going to happen to us -- at least a little bit.
However, we can’t change our current situation or our future if we spend time trying to force the past to change. We can’t change what’s already happened, we can only change our thoughts about it. If we waste time trying to change the past, we lose control of the present and in turn, the future. In order to move on from the past, we have to accept what happened and take pride in the fact that we did something to make something happen, whether it’s good or bad. We need to learn to take pride in the fact that we’re creator’s in our lives and we have control over things -- and then we need to use that control over ourselves to our advantage. And thus, the fates guide the person who accepts them, and hinder the person who resists them.
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What do you think? What do you do to accept your circumstances, and how has that helped you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Feel free to leave a like, and definitely share this with your friends! They might thank you later for sharing this information with them. Stay tuned for future blog posts every Monday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday, and try to be the reason someone smiles today :)
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Solutions Within Problems: Part Five
“Will is our internal power, which can never be affected by the outside world.” -- Ryan Holiday, author of The Obstacle is the Way
People let everything get to them nowadays.
No, I don’t mean people get upset over everything. Getting upset or a little bit frustrated is natural. I mean people have a bad habit of letting every minor inconvenience cut to the bone and make them break down. They let external forces lay waste to the stronghold within their mind, and it rots out the rest of their life. It’s a sad truth. It’s unfortunate that it happens, but it does.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying everybody is too sensitive now. I’m saying that people are under the impression that everything has the power to shake them when this simply isn’t the case. How do we change this?
Well, in order to seize control of our minds, we have to seize control of our thoughts. It’s important to realize that your thoughts and your mind are on two sides of the same scale, not different steps on a ladder. You don’t need complete control over your mind in order to control your thoughts, and you don’t need complete control over your thoughts to take back your mind. That being said, control over one makes it easier to seize control over the other. What does this mean?
This means that it’s important to begin disciplining both your mind and the thoughts that spew from it. This means that it’s important for you to understand that words are just sounds from someone’s mouth, and sounds can’t make you change unless you let them. This means that it’s important for you to understand that you can always mentally separate yourself from whatever intense situation is in front of you and remind yourself that it’s going to be olay, and you’ll be able to come up with a plan to get out of whatever mud you’re stuck in.
Still don’t think it’s possible? I don’t blame you. It’s difficult to say the least, I won’t pretend like it’s easy.
What I WILL say though, is that you’ve probably mentally distanced yourself before and didn’t even realize it. Think about what would happen if a five year old kid came up to you, kicked your leg, and called you every name under the sun. Would you lose it? Or would you tell the kid to go away and go throughout your day? Most of us would choose the latter, but if you think you would lose it then honestly, I recommend seeking help from a professional -- most people wouldn’t lose it on a five year old.
So what’s my point here? Why am I telling you all this? Well, because as simple as it may seem, most people don’t realize they already know the things you’ve just read. Most people don’t remember to mentally distance themselves when things get intense and go inside their mental fortress. Most people lash out when they get too stressed, and that results in much more harm than good. I’m reminding you that you know these things in order to help you break away from what others do -- lose their temper in the heat of the moment. You have it in you to rise above the feelings that others try to project onto you through their words and expressions of emotion. Everybody does. Be the example.
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What do you do when you get upset? Do you go for a walk? Do you begin counting? I’d love to hear alternative methods to cooling down and regaining mental control, because there’s many different ways to go about doing so. Feel free to comment your thoughts underneath this post -- let’s start a conversation! I also encourage you to follow this blog, like it, and share it with your friends. They might thank you for sharing this information! Also, stay tuned for future blog posts every Monday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday, and try to be the reason someone smiles today :)
-- Chris